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Writer's pictureShayna Turk Dovitz

Top 5 Behavioral Problems Students Face and What Parents Can Do

Building Grit Amidst Growing Behavioral Issues at School



Building Grit Amidst Growing Behavioral Issues

The current generation has grown up in a world receiving generous praise to boost self-esteem. This "every kid gets a trophy" approach, while designed to ensure no child feels left out, might unintentionally deprive them of crucial life lessons. Resilience, adaptability, and grit are paramount for navigating life's challenges—qualities that a participation-reward culture may inadvertently diminish.

STARS Academy is at the forefront, weaving these solutions into the school experience, emphasizing resilience and progressive discipline. We will dive deeper into this topic in the coming weeks—stay tuned. But for now, let's understand the current landscape of our students' experiences.


Understanding Today’s Student Landscape


Today's students are navigating academic pressures and grappling with the challenges of the digital age, societal changes, and global issues. Experiencing global adversities with the rapid pace of technological innovation creates a world far more volatile than previous generations ever knew.


Students are in the unique position of having access to the world's knowledge and current events at their fingertips. With this vast influx of information, they face a problem — leveraging these resources for good while avoiding the pitfalls of unlimited access.


Transitioning into Adulthood Without Resilience


Without resilience, the student's journey into college and adulthood can be turbulent. They may struggle with:

  • Academic pressures

  • Financial responsibilities

  • Forming new relationships

  • Transitioning to living independently

Without tools to manage stress, they might spiral into mental health disorders, academic setbacks, or interpersonal relationship struggles.

Two Paths, Two Outcomes

Consider two contrasting scenarios that demonstrate how resilience, or the absence of it, can profoundly impact a college journey:


Alex's Journey: A stellar high school student, Alex was unacquainted with failure. But a single poor grade in college unraveled her confidence. Her self-doubt manifested in social withdrawal and class absences, spiraling her performance downwards.


Sam's Resilient Path: Sam's education equipped him with coping strategies. He viewed college challenges as growth opportunities. Seeking feedback and continuously improving, he navigated college with a resilient ‘growth mindset.’ But resilience is a skill that goes beyond the classroom. The ability to overcome obstacles is a life skill that pushes individuals to accomplish more than they ever thought possible.


The Increasing Importance of Parental Involvement


Parental involvement plays a critical role in fostering resilience.

Parents should:

  • Remain connected

  • Offer a listening ear

  • Guide without overbearing control

  • Introduce active coping strategies

This allows children to experience manageable amounts of stress and learn from it rather than being shielded entirely or left to struggle without support. The idea is not to remove adversity from a child’s life but to give them the skills to cope when stress, trauma, and tragedy come into their lives.


Five Urgent Behavior Problems Students Face Today

The well-being and positive development of students involve far more than just academics. Many overlapping complex issues impact students’ ability to thrive in and out of the classroom.

  • Facing Academic Hurdles: Competition and looming high-stakes tests elevate stress levels.

  • The Loneliness Epidemic: Technological 'connections' often lack meaningful relationships, leaving many feeling isolated.

  • The Silent Cry of Anxiety: Anxiety isn't just about school. Fears surrounding global issues, current events, the future, and issues at home all contribute to anxiety.

  • Navigating the Digital Minefield: Cyberbullying's scars might be invisible but can contribute to negative self-esteem and mental health.

  • Unaddressed Mental Strain: Many don’t voice their mental struggles due to perceived pressure and stigmas.

Through these challenging problems without clear, easy solutions, parents and educators can support students in learning coping skills to build resilience and grit.


Identifying Behavior Problems in Early Childhood


Recognizing behavioral issues early in a child’s life is crucial. Addressing these concerns during formative years can preempt challenges in later stages. Children in K-6 are incredibly malleable, making this the ideal window to instill coping mechanisms and resilience.


Children Who Need to Develop Resilience Exhibit These 5 Behaviors Young children (K-6) may exhibit one or more of these signs that indicate the need for increased exposure to adversity, paired with understanding and concrete coping mechanisms they can practice in the safety of home or school.


  1. Exhibiting Avoidance of New Experiences: Children who show persistent reluctance or fear in the face of new activities may reveal an inability to manage change.

  2. Displaying Over-the-Top Emotional Outbursts: When children have extreme reactions to not getting their way, it could point to a significant struggle with handling disappointment.

  3. Demonstrating Excessive Clinging or Dependency: A child's over-dependence on familiar figures to navigate everyday situations might indicate a challenge in adapting to new environments.

  4. Maintaining Rigid Adherence to Routine: A child’s inability to cope with even minor changes in their routine could be a sign of their struggle with flexibility.

  5. Showing Avoidance of Challenges: A child who routinely avoids challenging situations or gives up quickly may be exhibiting a lack of resilience to potential failure.

Resiliency is a learned behavior. Early intervention can play a crucial role in guiding children towards developing resilience and grit.


STARS Academy's Commitment to Resilience


At STARS Academy, we recognize the importance of resilience in today's complex world. Our curriculum incorporates academic excellence and emotional fortitude. We strive to instill a resilient mindset in every student through hands-on exercises, guided discussions, and real-world problem-solving tasks.


At STARS Academy, we believe that resilience is more than a trait—it's a crucial life skill we hope to cultivate in every student.

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